Catch a Cheating Husband: How to Uncover the Truth (Part 2)

In part 1 of Catch a Cheating Husband: How to Uncover the Truth, you learned how critically important it is for you to be very attentive and alert in to everything your husband is doing, saying, says he’s doing, and to be really in tune with his habits and habit patterns.  You learned that it is vital to write everything down and to keep a running log/journal of everything.  You also learned that it’s imperative to exercise major caution when discovering physical evidence of any kind.  If you have not read part 1 of this article you can do so here.   In part 2 you will learn some additional strategies and ideas you must employ if you are to be successful in uncovering your husband’s infidelity.

As a result of your being attentive to you husbands every move, your chronicling his behavior and actions, and your starting to uncover bits and pieces of evidence against him and his infidelity, it is IMPERATIVE that you remain cool and do not say anything.  As you start putting the pieces together, it can be very tempting to start asking him questions and to begin probing into his behavior.  YOU MUST REFRAIN!

You must realize that if you start asking questions, he’s not going to say a word and he will likely become more careful.  Understand that you are at a distinct advantage in uncovering your husband’s potential infidelity if he thinks you have no clue about what he’s doing.  You want him to think you’re a fool and that you’re oblivious to what is happening.  You must not give into the urge you’ll have to drop hints that you know something is up.  It can be very difficult to remain cool and “seemingly un phased” because this whole process is very emotional but you can’t lose sight of your goal to discover the entire truth.  You compromise finding our weather he is cheating if you speak to soon.

The deeper you get into your investigation of your husband’s potential infidelity, the more evidence will begin to surface.  It is very imperative that you restrain yourself from asking him if he’s cheating if you do not yet have enough evidence to prove it.  If you prematurely “let the cat out of the bag” and you don’t have proof, you may potentially ruin your ability to find out if he is in fact cheating on you.  It’s important for you to realize that it is highly unlikely your husband will admit to cheating if you do not have concrete proof.  Timing is so incredibly important.  You want to wait until you are absolutely certain before confronting him and allow the facts and evidence you’ve discovered to prove your case for you.   YOU HAVE TO RESTRAIN YOURSELF! 

As the evidence continues to mount, you are likely to become more upset and angry.  There is a good chance you may be emotionally frail and weak by everything you are uncovering.  However, if you allow your emotions to get the better of you and they induce you to say something before the proof is in place, you run the risk of never knowing the truth.  This in many cases is worse and more painful than the emotions of anger and hostility you will feel as you begin to uncover signs of infidelity. 

By now, I’m sure you realize the importance of building a strong case against your husband and his infidelity.  Once your evidence is strong and it can essentially prove that he’s been having an affair, it’s time to confront him.  With a strong case and factual evidence staring him in the face, there will be no way for him to “wiggle out of it.”  However before you confront him about what you know you want to plan how you’re going to do it.  You want to be specific about how, when, and where you’re going to discuss your finding with your adulterous husband.  You will also want to be clear about your objective/goals of confronting him about his infidelity. 

Understand that this entire process will not be easy especially towards the end if/when the evidence begins to confirm your initial suspicions.  Being devastated emotionally through this process is unfortunately a condition you may have to be willing to accept if you want to uncover the truth.  That being said, you deserve to know the truth.  You don’t deserve to be disrespected and humiliated by your husband.  Ultimately only you can decide weather knowing the truth is worth it or if you’d rather ignore the evidence and just pretend nothing is happening.