Catch a Cheating Husband: How to Uncover the Truth (Part 1)

If you suspect that your husband has been cheating on you, there are some steps you can take to find out exactly what is going on and determine weather or not he is being unfaithful.  Uncovering the truth might not be easy, especially emotionally if you are not prepared for what you may find.  However, I suspect the reason you are even reading this is because you want the truth and that is what you deserve.  Again, I must reiterate that you must be prepared emotionally for what you might find.  Uncovering the truth is a process and you’ll be doing a lot of investigating which at times may be a little difficult depending on the evidence you uncover.  Discovering infidelity can be extremely difficult so be sure you are prepared before you begin taking the steps to find out if your husband is in fact engaged in extramarital relations.

In order to catch a cheating husband, the first thing you must do is be very alert and attentive.  An adulterous husband will often deviate from their typical habit patterns is some way, shape, form.  Be aware of this and be in tune with how he’s dressing, how he smells, what he says, and how he acts.  Is he dressing “up” more than usual and/or grooming more meticulously?  Are the odors of perfume or other fragrances that might cause you to question where he’s been?  Are his computer habits different?  Do you suspect him to be hiding what he’s doing online?  Has he told you stories that are inconsistent and don’t match up?  The first step to definitively determining if he’s cheating is being attentive to everything your husband says and everything he does.

As you continue to ask yourself the question, “Is he cheating?” it is going to be very beneficial for you to log his behavior, actions, etc.  You really want to document everything you find and keep a running log.  Note what he says he’s doing when he goes out, this way you can match up credit card/bank statements and phone records to cross reference his story.  You’ll want to be sure to write down any times you suspect suspicious activity or times when suspect signs of infidelity.  By writing everything down and keeping a running log of what your husband is up to, you can begin to gather evidence and have everything available if/when you decide to confront him.  Your husband will have essentially no way to “get out of it” if you log everything you uncover and find him to be unfaithful.  As a side note, be sure to keep this journal/log away from your husband and make sure he cannot find it.  This will be expanded upon in Part 2 of this article.

In your quest to uncover your husband’s potential infidelity, it is likely you will come across physical evidence from time to time.  In these situations, it is imperative to exercise caution and to be very careful.  You’ll want to note exactly how things are placed and positioned and be sure to leave them as he left them to ensure you don’t arouse his suspicions that you’re onto him.  If you find phone numbers, letters/emails, suspicious receipts, etc. it’s a good idea to take pictures of them and/or photocopy them and add them to your evidence log.  Note again the importance of keeping this journal/log in a safe secure location in which your husband will not be able to find it or access it.  Again, it is very important that you chronicle everything and keep any physical evidence you find (by taking a picture or making a photocopy) so you can have all your “evidence” in place if and when you decide to confront your husband about his adulterous ways. 

I hope you are starting to see some of the things you can begin doing if you suspect your husband is having an affair in order to uncover the truth.  Be sure to continue reading part 2 of this article to further understand what you must do to uncover the potential infidelity of your husband.